Healing

The Rippling Effects of Abuse

Recently, someone asked me, “How can you possibly heal and move forward when the people closest to you have been hurt by your own trauma-induced neglect and hurtful actions?” It is a question I’ve asked myself many times. Truly, the rippling effects of abuse reach beyond the victim. Its effects are felt profoundly by those…

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Reclaiming the Good

Reclaiming the good moments in our lives is critical in emotional and spiritual healing. But it is not enough to simply uncover the pieces of light. We have to own them.

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Unboxing the Pain

Healing is not only about feeling and acknowledging the pain, but about learning to set ourselves free from its grasp. We don’t have to continue to be victimized by the past. Unboxing the pain helps us learn from the past and look forward to the future. We can find the strength inside us to ultimately thrive in a life that is uniquely our own.

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No More Excuses: Reclaiming Power

Freedom comes as we set excuses aside, put blame where it belongs, and reclaim the light scattered throughout our lives. We CAN build a life we love.

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Power to Choose

The Power to Choose

The power to choose seems a distant reality when we are victims of abuse. It is not only the uncertainty and pain of events we can’t control, but the way abuse shatters our ability to see our real selves. Abusers use tools of pain and deception to transfer blame onto their victims. Breaking free from the effects of abuse is about reclaiming our power to choose who we will be and the direction our life will take.

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The Power of the Word “Yet”

There is power in using the word, “yet”, when struggling to navigate our healing journey. Yet is the antidote of fear. I don’t know yet, keeps the door open to answers and help. I can’t yet, helps plant the seeds of a better self image. I don’t want to yet, keeps us from succumbing to the storms. The word yet adds power to and awareness of our ability to move forward.

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Transforming Trauma

Discovering ways to help others gives us strength to transform trauma’s self-defeating thoughts and actions into motivation for the future.

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The Miracles Continue

The miracles continue in the three months since Miracles in the Dark: How a Childhood Cult and Abuse Victim Reclaimed the Light went live on Amazon. The opportunities to share messages of hope have been heart-changing. As a survivor of extreme childhood abuse, I have experienced miracles in healing from its effects. Sharing the intimate…

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Strength in Accepting a Higher Power

It is freeing to know that there is a Higher Power that can give us the power we need to move through the anguish that haunts us and forward to a more beautiful life.

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The Power to Heal

Powerlessness as a victim skews our vision of the world and our role in our own life. Often, we claim responsibility for our abusers’ actions because it eases the sense of absolute powerlessness. Believing we are “bad,” means we can believe we have power to change and stop the abuse. Abusers accuse the victim of being the problem. Somehow it is easier for the victim to accept that lie than the enormity of the truth.

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