Powerlessness as a victim skews our vision of the world and our role in our own life. Often, we claim responsibility for our abusers’ actions because it eases the sense of absolute powerlessness. Believing we are “bad,” means we can believe we have power to change and stop the abuse. Abusers accuse the victim of being the problem. Somehow it is easier for the victim to accept that lie than the enormity of the truth.